THE REAL RICH LIFE: Unlock the Secrets of Relationships

Why doesn’t that person understand me?”
Have you ever thought like that?

We live in relationships with other people.
Whether at work, with friends and acquaintances, or with parents and children, we are in constant relationship with others and communicate through conversation.

In a meeting with a subordinate, a conversation with a friend, or a conversation between a parent and a child, you may ask, “Why don’t you understand what I’m saying? I’m sure there are times.

Many of the problems in human relationships are caused by misunderstandings.
It is not only you, but the other person suffers from the same feeling.

Why is it so difficult for people to understand what the other person is saying?

In order to facilitate communication, many people try to be good talkers.
If you speak clearly and well, the other person will understand you.
That is the heart of conversation, which is very important.

However, in interpersonal communication, there is actually something more important.
That is “how to listen”.

When you listen to someone, how do you listen to them?
Have you ever been aware of how you listen?
Everyone has their own unique way of listening, and you have your own unique way of listening that you are not aware of.
If the other person does not understand you, it is because they are not listening to you as you intended.
The reason they don’t understand is because they are not listening to you as you intended.

“You have your own way of listening, and that way of listening is what makes your life.
Would you be surprised if someone told you that? This is not an exaggeration, but a statement that gets to the heart of the matter.

The problems you have in interpersonal and business communication are all caused by the way you listen.
All of your interpersonal and business communication problems are caused by the way you listen, and you are causing them yourself.
Conversely, your success is guided by your innate listening skills.
Listening is the key to interpersonal and business communication.

In the Japanese Shinto tradition, there are four ways of listening.
These four patterns are derived from the ancient Japanese concept of Shinto.
There are many shrines in Japan that pass on this concept.

In this book, you will learn about your own unique way of listening.
It will also help you to know what kind of listening style the other person has.
You will be able to communicate your intentions to others without difficulty.
By understanding the intentions and thoughts of the other person, you will be able to communicate more smoothly.

In addition, when you learn how you listen to yourself and others, and are able to “transcend” that listening style, you will be able to
You will be able to truly “choose” your own life.
You will be able to build your own life, your relationships will improve, the people around you will grow, and your life will become amazingly rich.
You will be amazed at how much richer your life will become.

This book will help you master the best way to listen, improve your communication, and enrich your life.
I hope you will master the best way to listen, improve your communication, and enrich your life.
I also hope that you will become interested in Japanese culture.

 

THE REAL RICH LIFE: Unlock the Secrets of Relationships

Hikaru Deguchi

January the 29th, 2021 release

Amazon Kindle Store

 

 

Contents

Ⅰ People listen to the same story with a different interpretation.

1. The way of feeling moved is also very different from person to person

2. The way of listening can be divided into four categories

3. The basic patterns of listening are “Courage” (Yuu,Ara-mitama), ” Harmony ” (Shin,Nigi-mitama), “Love” (Ai,Sachi-mitama), and “Wisdom” (Chi,Kushi-mitama)

4. “One Universal Spirit with Four Souls” and“The Five-Factor Theory of Personality”(Ichirei-Shikon)

5. Four Ways to Listen and Negative Listening

“Courage” (Yuu,Ara-mitama),　“Harmony” (Shin,Nigi-mitama), “Love” 　(Ai,Sachi-mitama), “Wisdom” (Chi,Kushi-mitama).

How to listen to ” / Negative parts for “Courage” / “Harmony” way of listening / Negative parts for “Harmony” / “Love” way of listening / Negative parts for “Love” /  “Wisdom” way of listening / Negative parts for “Wisdom” 

6.Three ways to get a grip on your listening

Listening Techniques from characteristic words / Characteristic words for “Courage” / Characteristic words for “Harmony” / Characteristic words for “Love” / Characteristic words for “Wisdom” /Finding out the way of listening from the “content” of stories/You can find out what a person is really like with just two questions! — “The Window of the Four Souls”

II  Grasping the essence of a person from the way of listening

What do people want from life?

1. The Worldview of “Courage”

Living life for action with cherishing faith and cause

Communication and evaluation criteria for “Courage” 

What insecurities do “Courage” people have?

The hidden mission for the soul of “Courage”/ Who is a person of “Courage” — / Image of the “Courage” life

2. The Worldview of “Harmony”

Living in a harmonious air with virtue and balance

Communication and evaluation criteria for “Harmony”/ What insecurities do “Harmony” people have?

The hidden mission for the soul of “Harmony” / Who is a person of “Harmony” — / Image of the “Harmony” life

3. The Worldview of “Love”

Living in a world of compassion and tender devotion

Communication and evaluation criteria for “Love” / What insecurities do “Love” people have? 

The hidden mission for the soul of “Love” / Who is a person of “Love”?– / Image of a “Love” life

4. The Worldview of “Wisdom” 

Living in an exploration of the world that values curiosity and sense

Communication and evaluation criteria for “Wisdom“/ What insecurities do “Wisdom” people have?

The hidden mission for the soul of “Wisdom” / Who is a person of “Wisdom”? — / Image of the “Wisdom” life

III Listen to the secret voice of the heart.

1. Know the true self hidden at the bottom of your heart

2. The pattern for “Courage” type

  Negative voices of “Courage” / What is the secret of “Courage”

How is “Courage” seen?  How should “Courage” relate to others?

3. The pattern for “Harmony” type

Negative voices of “Harmony” / What is the secret of “Harmony”

How is ” Harmony” seen?  How should “Harmony” relate to others?

4. The pattern for “Love” type

Hearing the negative voice of “Love” / What is the secret of “Love”

How is “Love” seen? / How should “Love” relate to people?

5. The pattern for “Wisdom” type

Negative voices of “Wisdom” / What is the secret of “Wisdom”

How is “Wisdom” seen? / How should “Wisdom” relate to others?

6. What the negative voice points to “the voice of the heart” and “the voice of the soul”

7. Listen to the hidden voice of the soul

Contained “Love” / The price of “hidden love” / Breaking the seal of “hidden love”

Contained “Courage” / The Price of “hidden courage” / Breaking the Seal of “hidden courage”

The Power to Embrace the Opposite “Four Souls”

Ⅳ How to listen and communicate with the four types of people

1. Anticipate the way they will listen and deal with it

Directing the way of listening to “Courage” to the same vector/directing the way of listening to “Harmony” to the role for the fellow／

Turn the way of listening to “Love” into a relationship / Turn “Wisdom” listening into problem-solving

2. How to communicate to your heart by type

How to tell a heartfelt message to “Courage” / How to tell a heartfelt message to” Harmony ” / How to tell a heartfelt message to “Love” / How to tell a heartfelt message to “Wisdom” / How to empower “Courage” / How to empower” Harmony “/How to empower “Love” / How to empower “Wisdom”

3. For the meeting to proceed

4. The importance of accepting different types of people

5. The way you listen and how you communicate will make you grow

V Listening to your inner voice that opens up your life

1.The three inner voices guiding your life

2. “Fake voices” wearing the mask of “goodness”

Ⅵ Improve your true self

1. “Freedom of choice” and “freedom to engage” determine your life

2. Improve your listening skills

3. Three Steps to Improve Your Listening Skills – Spirituality

4. Another special self, a detached view（Riken-no-Ken）

5. People are headed towards a common goal

Conclusion 

Beyond Listening

References

Acknowledgments 

[Appendix 1]

The way we listen and the way we see the world

[Appendix 2]

Table of Four Souls (1) 

  This is how I deal with my subordinates.

When you bring in a proposal / When you note the mistakes of your subordinates

What to look out for when evaluating and how to praise / when having a drink

Correspondence table for the Four Souls (2)

This is how I’m going to deal with my boss.

If you submit a proposal/in case of failure/

Read the evaluation criteria / If he asks you out for a drink

 

THE REAL RICH LIFE: Unlock the Secrets of Relationships

Hikaru Deguchi

January the 29th, 2021 release

Amazon Kindle Store